Every day I will myself into being successful
For me personally, that translates into buying an acreage before I’m 35 with my husband (I want alpacas for fibre and to be able to grow the majority of my own food… I also want a mini pig and we can’t legally have one within city limits as they’re considered livestock).
It also includes building an income that does not require me leaving the house if I don’t feel like it, and ideally let’s me have some flexibility with the hours I work. See above dream of alpacas.
While this dream may be “my” dream, this dream is not unique.
For the most part, everything you want to do have been achieved by someone else already. Somewhere in the world, there is another fabulous woman with a happy little farm surrounded by alpacas and I’m probably already stalking her on Instagram.
There are 2 basic ways I could handle this fact.
I could be jealous, I could think she has family money, or got lucky, or married rich, or has some magical quality that I’m missing.
Or alternatively I can wake up every day and remind myself “there is no reason you cannot be one of those people”.
Guess what? Option 2 is a hell of a lot more likely to result in me getting the life that I want.
Therefore, every single morning I wake up and visualize that life for a few minutes. I’m a big fan of doing this while I’m half asleep, it’s time I don’t need my brain to be too calculating or precise, and my mind is still primed for crazy visuals having just been dreaming all night.
Visualization is great, but it isn’t going to help you unless you take the steps required to help yourself.
I’ve also taken the time to break this goal down into actionable steps, like browsing properties in our area to have an idea of how much that down payment is going to be, and figuring out how much I need to be earning every month to realistically save for that property in 10 years. There are about a million calculators online to help with this, or any other savings goal you can imagine.
You don’t need to stare at those calculations and numbers every single day, but you absolutely need to keep the big dream in the back of your mind constantly.
Seriously, I cannot count how many times my brain has thought “let’s just order pizza tonight instead of eating what’s in the fridge” or “I’m tired, maybe I’ll work on my side hustle tomorrow”. Thankfully I’ve conditioned myself to respond with the mental image of adorable alpacas.
Do I sometimes spend the money on pizza or take a night off? OF COURSE. We’re human, it happens. The key is to keep that big dream in mind and take those couple seconds to remember that all those little decisions are bringing you either closer or farther from that goal, and decide which direction you want to move in today.